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How You Can Save Your Relationship
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The first step in saving a relationship is deciding if it is worth saving and if you are trying to save it for the right reason. Some people think that they need to save their relationship for the children. This does the children no good. Children need to be raised by people that are living in a healthy relationship and are true to each other, not one that is fake for the sake of the children. Children are a lot smarter than we give them credit for and they will see right through you.
Both people in a relationship have to be on the same page if the relationship has any hope of being saved. The old saying “It takes 2 to tango” can apply to this situation. If one person in the relationship is not interested, there is little that can be done. You must figure out what the problem is. Sometimes when people are trying to save a relationship they think that the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself. An example of this would be when there is an affair involved. You may think that the affair is the problem when in reality the problem in the relationship is an underlying problem that drove the person to have the affair in the first place.
Communication in the relationship will usually bring out the reason for the person straying. This is the most important step in saving the relationship. Sharing each others thoughts may seem like a hurtful scenario to follow but you need to be honest and reassure each other that you are still in love and only saying these things to heal the relationship. Once the two of you start to deal with the underlying issue, you will be on your way to saving the relationship.
The next step in saving the relationship would be to create a plan to solve the problem or problems you have pin pointed. You will then need to implement the plan. If your life takes you in opposite directions and you don’t see each other much, plan a date night or even a lunch together. Another option would be to plan a certain day of the week to get together for a movie night. If each of you think of different ways to spend time together it will bring excitement back into the relationship. If communication seems to be the problem between the two of you, try setting aside a half hour before going to bed for talking. Sometimes laying in bed in the dark and talking makes it easier for the words to flow. Whatever plan you decide to pursue, stick to it.
Saving a relationship won’t happen over night. The relationship didn’t fall apart in one day so it will take some time, and work on both sides to repair. Sometimes you may feel that you are taking two steps forward and one step back and you probably are, but that is how the process works. You will both experience some pain but if you are sincere, truthful and persistent you will enjoy many moments of fun and laughter. Be kind to each other, apologize when needed and slow to blame and you will be well on your way to saving your relationship.
If your relationship is worth saving, I have described, tried and true, steps in this article that will enable you to stay together and live a long happy life together. Live, laugh and love life!
The steps above are a starting point in mending a broken relationship. Getting back with an ex is a bit more complicated than what is outlined here but it is a good start and will get you well on your way to getting your ex back.
For a more detailed plan that will help you get your ex back click here
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Teddy Tedbos
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Leadership, sales, marketing, training, mentoring -they all demand communication skills. Understand a few communication theories and you can greatly improve these skills.
While I would like to give you simple pat answers, life is not always simple. Some of the most abundant oil wells require deep drilling. I say that so that you will not check out on reading something that can make a dynamic difference in your business. It will require some deep mental drilling. Hopefully we will be drilling and not boring. (Pun intended.)
I am going to talk about communication theories. I have discovered how important it is to have a basic understanding of communication theories in my work as a communication and e-learning professional and consultant.
If you want to communicate more effectively, base your communication on some of these theories. Understanding just a few theories is one of the most effective ways to improve your communication and marketing skills.
Definition of theory
What definition of theory will I use? Theory: It is a pattern of study that has been developed over time and contains a testable body of information or principles that guide activities. It is a systematic model that explains interactions in a way that helps you predict the future.
When you communicate as leader in business, education, church or marketing, you want to use proven patterns that have a history of success, don’t you? It makes sense to have principles that have been tested and proven to be good guides?
What theory is not
The theories I refer to are not abstract speculation that some John Doe dreamed up in the middle of the night because he had too much pizza before bed. Sometimes the term theory is used in this way.
Some people call speculation theory. Used that way theory is the opposite of fact. That is not the theory you need, although you probably know leaders that operate on those kinds of theories.
Sometime methods and accepted traditional models are defined as theory, such as music theory. It is closer to the definition — but not quite close enough.
The power of theory
The power of theory (the first definition) is when it can be adapted to guide your activities. You use the theory to plan; then you implement the plan; you check the results, and make adjustments to your understanding of the theory and do it again. That is the kind of theory that turbo-charges your thinking.
So the short definition for the kind of theory I reference here is: a systematic model that explains interactions in such a way that it helps you predict the future.
Theories are everywhere. Here are three ways a theory can serve you if you are a leader.
1. It allows you to learn from genius
The kind of theories I defined have been developed out of careful research and study, sometimes a lifetime of it. Because they have been developed by scholars and preserved in their writings, you can read and learn from past genius.
For example there have been heavily researched theories regarding face-saving. Face saving is the action designed not to cause the other person embarrassment. Theories related to face-saving indicate that persons who come from more collectivistic cultures engage in high face saving.
Conversely, people from more individualistic cultures tend to speak more directly and with less concern about helping the other party save face. This launches us into the next way theories help communicators and leaders.
2. Theory provides a basis for analysis you might otherwise miss
In the example of face-saving theory, I mentioned collectivistic cultures. Collective cultures are cultures with high interdependence. Examples of collectivistic cultures might include some Asian and Hispanic cultures.
Let speculate and say you are an individualist and you invite a Latin American you just met to a social event. This person says they will come. If you understand face-saving you will quickly analyze the situation and understand that the invitee may intend to come.
However, you also realize the invitee may be helping you save face, not wanting to embarrass you by refusing your hospitality. This leads to the third way a theory may serve you.
3. Theory provides a big-picture vantage point
Using the example above you know about face-saving, so you overtly provide a way in the conversation for the person to gracefully decline. Or perhaps it means you are a little slower to brand the persons as “not keeping their word” when in their culture “yes” means “I would like to” rather than a definite, “I am coming”.
Understanding the theory could help you understand the situation from a higher cultural view point rather than a personal view point. This keeps you from wasting emotional energy because you take it personally and are angry, hurt, or disappointed.
There are other ways that theories can help us understand our interactions. They can give us consistency in the way we mentally process interactions; they provide a common language and understanding of what may be occurring; and, they provide a point from which to develop new theories as the old are applied to new situations.
Know that the example above is only one example. Watch for upcoming articles on theories that you as a leader will want to know and apply. In the meantime, do a web search combining theory with words like, communication or leadership.
Practice looking at situations through the lens of some good theories and it will make you a better leader in religious, direct marketing, educational, training, and sales organizations. Theories give insight. Use them.
Rick Hubbard
http://www.articlesbase.com/communication-articles/what-leaders-need-to-know-about-theory-based-communication-284993.html
Modern Man in T.s. Eliot’s Love Song of J. Alfred
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Modern Man in T. S. Eliot’s
The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock
By
Farhad Moradi
M.A. in
English Literature
Thomas Stearns Eliot’s poetry has been of great influence in revealing to man his real identity during the last fifty years. To Eliot, the modern man is no longer the best creature ever created by God. He is neither a being supreme in everything. Nor is he the all-knowing, the most determined, and the sociable creature one might think of. How is this modern man depicted in his poetry is a question that would take time and meticulous effort to be answered. Nevertheless some characteristics of man are more evident in his poetry: Man suffers an impoverishment of emotional vitality. He lives according to the rules of the empty social conventions and those of a decadent culture. Man’s life is partly sordid and sensual. He is to some extent aware of his isolation and footlessness. He feels himself entangled in a corrupt, decaying, Ugly Society. All of these features, however, could be categorized into three major groups. Each group, in turn, would show a series of subsidiary relating problems which would make a whole entity. The duplicity of Man, lack of communication among Men, and Man’s isolation are three basic predicaments of Man, making him more and more alienated. Although, these motifs are common to Eliot’s poetry the writer here tries to trace them in his “Love Song” (The Waste Land and Other Poems 12).
The sense of duplicity within the modern man is a major motif in Eliot’s “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock” (12). In this poem the hero, Prufrock, is helplessly caught in an interminable quarrel between his own desire to live by himself and the obligation to submit to the social conventions. Eric Sigg in his book, The American T.S. Eliot, affirms that Eliot depicts the duplicity between the “Character and environment” and between the “warning elements within a single soul.” This duplicity makes Purfrock suffer helplessly. The two selves, that is, the personal and the social, have to tolerate each other (188 – 9). For treating each self Prufrock, however, has some strategies.
To the people in the society Prufrock, the representative of the modern Man, has a different self to put forward. This self as Eliot expresses is something artificial that should be prepared: “There will be time, there will be time to prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet” (Lines 26-27). This notion, however, needs to be explained somehow.
Man, in order to be accepted by others, tries to make himself as similar to them as possible. Joseph Conrad strikes the idea even further. He states that, “We can at times be compelled into a mysterious recognition of our opposite as our true self” (The Norton Anthology of English Literature 847). Man is nevertheless, instinctively and naturally a creature different from what he puts forward in the public. It is palpable, for example, in his getting bored with his fellowmen as soon as they try to penetrate to his personal life. In this sense man is a hypocrite, a double dealer.
Man, again, has a sense of duplicity regarding his own self. He suffers in the society yet he is unwilling, actually unable, to do something about it. In a book entitled T.S. Eliot. The Longer Poems, Derek Teraversi is of the opinion that the badness is within the Man not in the society. According to Traversei, Man is psychologically handicapped. He is unable to take the necessary actions (22 – 28).
The idea of duplicity in its both aspects, within the Man, and between the Man and society, has a general impact on him. Hugh Kenner in his The Invisible Poet specifies that the conflict between Prufrock, who stands for the modern Man, and himself and also his conflict with the society “condemns him to boredom and passivity.” He considers Man’s role in the society no more than that of a fool (20). The fact is expressed, explicitly, in the poem where Prufrock is analyzing himself as: “At times, indeed, almost ridiculous. /Almost, at times, the Fool (limes 118-119).
As a result of this view, Prufrock retreats to his own self which would result in two other problems: his inability to communicate and, consequently, his isolation.
Lack of communication among Men another basic theme functioning in “The Love Song”. The idea is presented by Martin Scofield in T.S. Eliot: The Poems. He, however, puts an emphasis on “a positive relationship… between a man and a woman” (66). Nevertheless, Prufrock seems to be unable to communicate with all of those who are around him, both Men and Women. It is interesting, in the same manner, that others are equally unable to have a positive relation with him. Thus, the idea can be studied from a communal point of view. Inability to communicate is common to all. Yet, the problem with Prufrock is that he is aware of this fact; others are not. Although it seems that others are having conversations as “In the room the women come and go / Talking of Michelangelo. (Lines 13- 14/35- 36), talking about Michelangelo would be a kind of escape each speaker resorts to not to be touched by the other person’s real words about the real life situation. The Michelangelo talk, in other words, is not a genuine way of communication since it does not penetrate to real alive people’s life, in this case the speakers themselves. Tangible communication, generally referred to, infiltrates the communicators mind and makes a way to their inner selves. Thus defined, there appears no sign of communication in the Michelangelo talk where some women would presumably maneuver over some already-known, stereotyped talk about Michelangelo who, in his turn, being an artist, is deliberately chosen by Eliot as a source of attraction to women. Thus he acts as an entertaining subject to talk about. Nevertheless, the women would, as the nature of such talks importunes, concentrate on out witting each other by putting across deeper familiarity with the artist and his works. They do not, however, get into real conversation about their real alive fellow people. This might have the same cause as Prufrock’s being reticent.
With the repetition of two lines, all in all, there are three places in the poem where Eliot refers to the lack of communication. Line 97 (repeated in line 110), line 103 and line 117 (13-14). Although the idea is common to all of the above mentioned lines, the motives seem to be different in each of them. In lines 97 and 110, for instance, one can observe that Prufrock is uncommunicative because he fears to be misinterpreted. In lines 103 and 117, however, what makes Prufrock reticent is the simple fact that he is unable to utter his words: “Full of sentence, but a bit obtuse” (Line 117).
The fear of being misinterpreted is basic to Prufrock’s preference to be silent. This fear, as expressed in lines 97 and 110, results from the consciousness on the part of Prufrock of the idea of lack of communication. In the two lines Prufrock imagines that he would be able to break the ice and talk to someone, a woman in this case, what would be the outcome of that? Prufrock believes it as being misinterpreted by the lady. She would say: “That is not what I meant at all. That is not it, at all” (Lines 97-98 109-110). In this way Prufrock never tries a conversation and remains silent.
There is also another cause for Prufrock’s silence. In lines 103 and 117 he explicitly alludes to the fact. Line 103 reads: “It is impossible to say just what I mean!” He seems to be willing to express what he has inside. Yet, he seems devoid of the means, hence words. Eliot carries on with this idea to line 117 where he briefly and beautifully summarizes Prufrock: “Full of sentence, but a bit obtuse” (13).
Lack of communication as a theme of modern Man’s, Prufrock’s life, in turn, brings up the problem of isolation.
The theme of isolation of the modern man is also central to Eliot’s “The Love Song.” Here Eliot tries to show man as a creature isolated from the community. This man is unable to go to the public. As it was discussed earlier Man is struggling between two selves: Social self, that is, what he puts forward in community, and his own self, a being living by himself. In “The Love Song” these two seem to be at odds with each other. This oddity, by itself, implies that human relations are futile and useless as well. Man should retreat to the remote distances of his mind. The poem, as a whole, affirms the idea. The poem is a monologue not a conversation.
“The Love Song”, being a monologue, is again a symptom of Prufrock’s isolation. In this sense, all of the actions take place in the speaker’s mind. There is no actual action. Walking “at dusk through narrow streets”, “coming from the dead”, “disturbing the universe”, even such minute actions of “scuttling across the floors of silent seas” and other references to action, interspersed throughout the poem, are but fake and false actions taking place in Prufrock’s imagination. He does nothing. He is far removed from the actual world to perform an action. He is isolated. He cannot enjoy being with others or if he can it’s so painful to him. Others’ experience is no better. G.B. Harrison in his book Major British Writers, describe these people as “People whose pleasure are so sordid and so feeble that they seem almost sadder than their pains” (830).
Prufrock’s isolation is reported in different ways in ‘The Love Song”. In a series of lines one can observe that Prufrock considers himself a Man who stands out of the community. He looks at people from outside of their groups. This can be traced in lines 42, 44, 49, 55, and 62. Except for the lines 42 and 44 in the remaining lines Prufrock is addressing the people. He alludes to different parts of their bodies. Line 49 reads. “For I have known them all already, known them all.” Line 55: “and I have known the eyes already, known them all.” And finally line 62: “And I have known the arms already, known them all” (13). A close study shows that Prufrock, through naming the parts of the body, emphasizes that neither of them appeal to him as a whole. Neither could compensate for his isolation. Sexual connotations are evident.
The idea of isolation, however, finds a new dimension in lines 42, and 44. In these lines Prufrock shows himself conscious of the people around him. He believes that they look at him questioningly. They are fault finding. The most terrible scene takes place when they, Prufrock imagines it, begin to talk about his physical deficiencies. His hair and his arms as well as his legs are the targets of their criticism. Line 42 reads: “They will say: ‘How his hair is growing thin!’” Line 44 is another example: “they will say: ‘How his arms and legs are thin!’” (Eliot 12) This sense of consciousness about the surroundings is described as a hindrance to coming to an understanding of the surroundings. The McGraw – Hill Guide to English Literature affirms the idea: “the consciousness presented in the poem is an intensely anxious and important one in that the speaker is unable to draw conclusions about anything” (321). He is nervous about that. He thinks that he is under their scrutiny. Thus, he feels more isolated from them. He, consequently, gets to the point that finds “the chambers of the see” the only suitable place for him to dwell in. (line 129) D.E.S. Maxwell in an essay, entitled “The Early Poem,” in the book Critics On T.S. Eliot states that, “Prufrock… never penetrates beyond ‘the cups, the marmalade, the tea’, to a conclusion either with the ladies in the poem or with his surroundings” (14).
Duplicity, lack of communication, and isolation are three major predicaments from which Prufrock suffers in “The Love Song”. The society seems to have a share in that. Yet, Prufrock, the representative of the modern man, himself, seems to be responsible for his sufferings. That is because everything happens within him. As a result, he becomes more and more alienated; hence the affliction of the modern Man.
Bibliography
· Abrams, M.H.; David, et al. The Norton anthology of English Literature. New York: W.W. Norton and Company, Inc., 2000.
· Gordon, Lyndall. The Wasteland and the Other Poems, London: Faber and Faber, 1940.
· Harrison, G.B. Major British Writers New York: Harcourt, Brace and World, Inc. 1957.
· Kenner, Hugh. The Invisible Poet: T.S. Eliot. London: Mathuen and Co., Ltd, 1985.
· Lawerence, Karen, Seifter, Besty, and Ratner, Lois. The Mc Graw-Hill Guide to English Literature. 2 Vol. 4, USA: McGraw – Hill, Inc., 1985.2:321.
· Scofield, Martin. T.S. Eliot: The Poems. London Faber and Faber, 1994.
· Sigg, Eric. The American T.S. Eliot. New York: Cambridge University Press, 1989.
· Sullivan, Sheila. Reading in Literary Criticism: Critics on T.S. Eliot. New Delhi: George Allen and Unwin Publishers, 1995.
· Traversi, Derek. T.S. Eliot: The Longer Poems. New York: Harcourt Brance Jovanovich, 1976.
Farhad Moradi
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How do i improve my communication skills?
By · Commentsmy communication skill is pretty weak. How do i improve on especially my spoken English?
One word:
TOASTMASTERS!
I have formed now two Toastmasters clubs in Houston. When I visited Shanghai for a personal vacation, I stopped in on a Toastmasters club there.
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Contact me if you have questions. My Toastmasters experience has given me the communication and leadership skills that have helped me in my job, relationships, and friendships. There is lots of recognition, opportunities to develop and learn from more experienced club members, and positive encouragement.
evaluate how important good ommunication skills are to achieving the mission and objectives of the firm.
the firm I have chosen is a law firm and the mission statement is "” provide superior legal representation to achieve optimal results in resolving a client’s legal issues, while exercising the highest standards of professionalism”.
But how does good communication skills help to acheive the mission and objectives of the law firm?
Thanks
As a law firm good communication skills are essential to achieve your goal. The first thing that has to be established is what good communication skills are and then we can evaluate how each of them is vital to achieve your mission statement.
1. Clear oral skills: If the lawyer/solicitor doesn’t have clear speech then they will not be to convey the law to their client nor will they be able to convey their clients case to the judge/magistrate. Both of these cases proof that the first part of the mission statement would fail if this communication skill was lacking.
2. Ability to actively listen: If the lawyer/solicitor doesn’t have to actively listen then they will not be able ask relevant questions to their client and may not hear vital information in relation to the case and thus not put the full case forward. The second part is that they may not understand the case that the opposition places before them and therefore not pull up the relevant points of law before the judge/magistrate.
3. Clear and concise written work: This is essential in writing and creating case bundles which would be vital in any courtroom. If the written work isn’t up to scratch then the barrister will have difficulty in conveying the facts of the case to the judge and may also mix-up evidence, thus compromising the case.
These are just the main communication skills, there are more that should be considered such as presentation skill, logical and emotional speech. However just these three show the vital importance of good communications.
Hope this has been helpful.
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