3 Strategies To Save Your Relationship
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Relationship troubles can start as minor matters, but long term problems can arise if they are not taken seriously. As small problems begin to compound into larger arguments, the stress involved with fighting can lead to a breakdown in communication and trust. It becomes harder to save a relationship when you begin to lose these vital elements of communication. To avoid a spiraling situation like this, try utilizing these 3 strategies for saving a troubled relationship.
Ask the Tough Questions
There will always be one side of a broken relationship that will refuse to reach out. This person typically feels that it is not their fault that things are going wrong. If this sounds like your partner, then you will need to assume the responsibility of attacking your problems. This process starts by asking the tough questions. Do you still love me?…Why aren’t you talking?…Do you think we can fix this?…are all examples of the questions you might need to ask your partner. Of course it is easier to avoid these stressful questions, but you need to learn the truth about your relationship before you can plan how to fix it.
Initiate Solutions
Rejection can be a hard pill to swallow, and because of this it is easy to avoid suggesting things that may be rejected by your partner. In order to solve relationship problems you can’t be intimidated by rejection. Simple suggestions such as going to dinner, or out for a movie, may seem ridiculous if you are fighting, but breaking the ice can help begin the healing process. For more serious problems, you might have to be more creative or seek professional therapy. The key is to initiate a solution. You can’t expect to wait for things to get better, or wait for your partner to make the first move. If you value your relationship then you should be willing to do everything you can to fix it.
Be Persistent
Even once you have started to confront your issues and offered solutions, you still need to follow through until you get the results you want. Don’t let your partner off the hook by letting them say “I will look into it” or “We can start tomorrow”. It is fine if they actually plan on doing things, but be sure to inform them that you will be following up about it. Anyone can create a good excuse for missing one or two deadlines, but eventually they will be forced to provide some answers. Being persistent does require some sensitivity when used in a troubled relationship. Be sure not to use a hostile tone when communicating with your partner. More importantly, explain to them how much it means to you for them to respect you opinions and ideas.
The key to solving any form of relationship trouble is to be proactive. The longer you allow problems to simmer, the worse they will become. By engaging the issue with your partner you can begin to improve you relationship. No matter how hard you try, sometimes a solution will still seem out of reach. For theses instances you need to turn to someone who has the experience necessary to help you. Cucan Pemo is one of the world’s best selling relationship authors. You can harness the power of her Four Step Strategy to Win Back the Love of Your Life by visiting GetBackMyEx.com
Elliot Beers
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20 Comments
April 14th, 2010 at 11:22 pm
Do you think if you are in a long relationship and things start to go stale?
that it is okay to go off somewhere to ‘recharge’, so that you can come back to your relationship with a new desire to be in it? (and not tell your partner about it) as a last ditch effort to save your relationship? and yes by ‘recharge’, i mean sex or intimacy with someone else.
Serious thoughts please.
The best way to talk to my BF about not agreeing with this theoretical strategy? (No- he’s not cheating on me and he’s wonderful, but yes it was a weird conversation.)
You guys are weird. It was my bf that was talking about this. I guess people don’t read the whole question half the time.
April 15th, 2010 at 4:24 am
cheating is cheating no matter what you call it
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:26 am
HELL NO
I did that and lost the girl of my dreams
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:28 am
no because if u love each other and r in love then stale isnt a factor ur gonna love them more everyday becuz of who they r. sooo sex with someone else shouldnt be a thought
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:30 am
go recharge with the same sex. It will improve your relationship and he cant really say you cheated on him.
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Dr.Phil.com
April 15th, 2010 at 4:32 am
No. Screwing around with others isn’t how you freshen up your own relationship, unless you are in an agreed upon "open" relationship or you are swingers and play together.
You either fix your relationship, or you move on…cheating fixes nothing and will almost certainly be the ultimate downfall of whatever situation you are in.
Break up and move on…or fix things while together. If you are bored with your partner then perhaps you just aren’t ready for a long term relationship.
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:34 am
if you have sex with another man that is cheating and WONT help your relationship only make it worse…..sorry but what you want to do is wrong and im sure you will be out of a really good guy when he finds out you slept with another man so sorry either way you are F***ed
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:36 am
The relationship isn’t that good if you wanna cheat on him, no matter how much you try and kid yourself.
It sounds like he can do a lot better, do him a favor, finish the relationship.
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:38 am
sorry but am i missing something here?.
cheat to save a relationship that is a new one to me.
i dont think it would save a relationship it will end it.
maybe im wrong but thats me.
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:40 am
I think long term relationships can get stale but sleeping with other people isn’t the answer and I don’t think it’s ok at all to do that. If it is getting boring then just don’t see each other as much and see how that works out. If you see each other all the time that’s probably not helping. Ultimately maybe he just isn’t the right person for you. Instead of a break where you see other people just have a break from each other, i’m sure you will find the answers you need.
Good luck
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:42 am
i dont know what 2 tell u but i think if he ask you then he must feel bad about somethin dont you think so?
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:44 am
no, i dont think "recharging" is a good idea… it can make things worse… there is the anger, jealousy and trust factor to consider… you may not want to tell your partner, but hey, what sheater does?? they will still find out… your better off talking to your partner about ways that you can spice things up rather than being a slut…
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Wifey to Isaac for five years
(and faithful the whole time)
April 15th, 2010 at 4:46 am
why would you do that? that is a stupid thing to do and emotions are raging would you like it if he did that to you?
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:48 am
I think if you are able to "recharge" with somebody else, then your feelings aren’t strong enough for your boyfriend. If you are able to do that, you should just let him know you don’t want to be with him anymore.
How can you do that with somebody else,… Without him knowing,… and have the guts to go back to him and do the same with him.
If he agrees with it I guess it’s a different story, but do you want that kind of relationship?
What if you or him like that "recharge" person better and end up leaving one another for the other person? Think about it long and hard before you do anything, behind his back, or with him knowing.. Because, it will change EVERYTHING. And I think… for the worse.
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:50 am
yea i do dat but not often i mean cuz if things are goin bad with me and my boyfrend i just have intimacy with another guy
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:52 am
WELL I THINK THAT IF YOU HAVE TO RECHARGE IT THEN ITS BORING AND SEEMS THAT ITS WEIGHING YOU DOWN…I THINK YOU SHOULD MOVE ON IF YOU HAVE TO RECHARGE IT…IF YOU LOVE HIM THEN THAT IS WHAT SHOULD KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHARGED
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:54 am
no i haven’t been a long relationship and just tell your bf your feelings and thoughts she’ll understand
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:56 am
No, never if he can’t stay charged up with you and wants to go somewhere else to get charged up. How often will it become a habbit and, it will always stay in the back of your mind. you’ll be in bed with him thinking i wonder what they did if she did this or this to him. Or if he did something with her that he would never do to you, but follow your heart!
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April 15th, 2010 at 4:58 am
this is a stupid answer to a stupid question, unfortunately…cheating is cheating. bye
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April 15th, 2010 at 5:00 am
u are not in a relationship u just put up with each other…frend-ship is the ondly word u can use with relation-ship..the only way u will be happy long term is to devolop a friend-ship into a reiation-ship then u can cruise ……
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u cant loose a freind . brake up and u still have something left