Relationship communication and the power of open communication
A relationship without open communication will inevitably give way to deception. There is no grey area. It is better to hurt another with open communication than to betray with deception. You will find that even the act of open communication prevents deeds that would normally be performed under the veil of dishonesty.
A relationship is a gentle lowering of individuality or Ego. A free flow of ideas, perceptions even insecurities should come to the surface and be discussed. In the ideal environment, no taboo or perceived craziness is outside the limit of open discussion. All taboos are society’s programming anyway- which is far from open at the present time. Even governments and companies have not recognized the power of open communication with their people.
To suddenly start being open after a long period of hiding is far more difficult than being open on a regular basis. But inevitably this line has to be crossed, and accepted. An environment suitable for revealing all is the first stage of open communication. Both parties must be willing to hear anything and refrain from allowing their Ego to jump into the fray; to judge, feel hurt or angry.
Next comes regularity. At first the impulse to be dishonest “in order to protect someone” will be strong. This is the first stage of dishonesty that is justified has being beneficial to the other person. Slowly this nurtures roots of deeper deception. If the root is cut while it is young and even little white lies are absorbed by the light of open communication – no lie can ever grow.
Does this mean one can share all thoughts, all ideas, or beliefs with anyone? It should. For now you’d get locked up or thrown into an institution as a madman. But there will come a time when society’s contract with dishonesty and illusion gives way to a deeper understanding of open communication. In the meantime there can be a selective agreement of open communication between a single couple, a single family, a single company and it’s employees, between a single government and it’s people before finally the whole world accepts the idea as norm.
Everyone may not like the idea at first, preferring to hang on to the perceived power that comes through lying. It is they who will prefer to go to war when the truth has been set free. Granted, there is a fine line between loose lips that sink ships and open communication in the spirit of greater love between two enlightened individuals. Open communication does not mean running the mouth like a loose cannon. It means selectively choosing your words in a way that will bring about greater harmony between yourself and another party. And avoiding the acts that would disrupt that harmony whenever possible. And in the rare cases where a controversial decision must be made in haste and a decision was made in error, it can quickly be discussed, accepted and learned from.
Most great tragedies begin with a small deception that gets cultivated over time. If you can learn to be open even when on the surface it appears that it will not serve you, over time you become the person that can always be depended on for the truth. And because the truth is a power sought from the depths of every Soul- anyone who possesses it will hold a position of great power. Respected, admired and even revered for their sincerity, and openness even in times when the truth is unpopular and their name risks being tarnished- they rise above the primitive contract of society and peer into a new world waiting on the horizon.
James Stinson
http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/the-power-of-open-communication-63195.html
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How to Have Better Communication Listening Skills.
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From early on in school we have been taught that listening skills are an important part of how to communicate. It is natural for humans to use listening skills to build communication skills.
Babies learn to speak through listening. We learn about things we do not know about through listening. So having effective listening skills can make you able to communicate better. You can learn how to communicate better through listening skills if you know the basics about listening.
The following four sections explain the key points to being a good listener and why they are important to communication listening.
1. Use body language to show you are listening.
Not only will body language show you are listening, but it will also help you to listen better. If you move closer you can hear better and not be distracted as easily. If you maintain eye contact you will be less likely to be distracted by something you see around you.
Also avoid fidgeting as this can show your lack of interest or that you are getting bored.
2. Repeating back parts of what someone has said to you shows them you listened.
It also helps you to comprehend what was said better. If you misunderstood this will let the speaker know and then it can be clarified. You also show you are interested by taking their words and repeating them back. It shows you were really focused on what they said.
3. Focus on the person speaking.
You should be giving you undivided attention to the person speaking. This means you are not looking for something in your purse, glancing around the room or doing some other task during a conversation.
If you are even slightly distracted you may miss something the person says or be at risk of misunderstanding them.
4. Do not interrupt the person speaking.
You should hear the other person out and wait for a break in the conversation to ask questions or express your point of view. Interrupting only shows you are more interested in your own thoughts than theirs.
These tips basically cover the ways to be a good listener. There are various takes on what is required to be a good listener. Some qualities vary depending on the situation you are in. These tips are based for those in a casual situation, such as at a party.
You should always do your best to be a good listener. If someone knows you never really listen then they will be less likely to want to talk to you again.
Try not to ignore what is said and show your interest and your communication listening skills will come across. Knowing how to communicate better through listening skills will make you an overall better comunicator and someone people want to talk to.
Peter Murphy
http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/how-to-communicate-better-with-superior-listening-skills-10296.html
I m looking for answer of my question.
Well, I collect timepieces and one time a lady friend of mine was bored and asked me what we could do one dreary winter night.
Looking over to the pride of my collection, a huge grandfather clock I’d recently acquired, I said "We could always fiddle with my rather large CLOCK."
Next thing you know she slapped me across the face and threatened to call the local constable on me for menacing a lady.
Boy was my face red…
I’m working at the bank. Mostly I deals with customers; however, I’m so poor at communication. Most of the time, I ask them about their weekends, their days, talked about the weather. While my other co-workers could talk to the customers about many things. I was wondering….if there is any books that could help communicate better with everyone, not just my customers. Other people could talk about anything and many topics, but I feel that I don’t have any topic to discuss about.
Is there any book that can help me to improve the people skills? communication skills?
101 Ways to Improve Your Communication Skills Instantly is a pretty good one
What are some ways my boyfriend and I can effectively improve communication in our relationship? Some exercises we can use or something. We’ve been arguing a lot lately and we both know it’s due to not having effective communication. So, what are some things we can do to boost our communication?
If you know the things he likes, try talking about those topics with him, he will love you even more. You will also get a kick out of it, you will be able to be more comfortable and communicate with him.
Hope I helped =)
How important is good information handling, and good communication skills, for the NHS to achieve their mission statement and general objectives?
How important is customer feedback?
poor communication amongst staff is a no no in the NHS as it could lead to catastrophic chain of events that ultimately could cost lives.
Information accumilated, organised and shared is knowledge in the workplace – knowledge is power and is the driving force to decision making and success.
if u struggle handle information constructively and your communication skills are below average, you shouldn’t anywhere near a health institution such as a hospital.
I’m fed up with the amount of times Ive walked into a hospital and asked a simple quesiton in straight forward english only for the moron on the other side of the desk to reply " sorry what was that ? "
I SAID DO YOU KNOW WHICH WARD….
and then im looked @ as if im being rude.
if youre deaf dont work behind ad esk you <beep> fool.
the NHS is actualy one big feckin circus act, half the ppl working in hospitals are on feckin drugs.
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